How do you measure the time between breaking up with someone and beginning dating again?. Break ups can leave you feeling that love is a cruel and painful entity offering true enlightenment too often followed by a tidal wave crashing you to the ocean floor of emotion, leaving you dazed and confused. “The heart was made to be broken” a prolific thought shared by many who believe the journey through love is the advancement of the soul and the strengthening of the spirit. Perhaps not the thought provoking words you want to hear when your world seems shattered and your happiness halted
In the heart of a break up the world seems unyielding as the days seem like lifetimes and the weeks bring no change. What seemed so fantastic has delivered its verdict and you cry to the heavens “what will happen to me and how can I live without him?. There is no fault on land or in any other realm as love is not perfect or neither the perfect plan but it has a way of healing us so we can begin again to open ourselves to a brand new play.
Much has been written about tragedy in love. Tales of betrayal, jealousy and lust have had lasting impressions on our view of romance and have lived in our imagining as a vision of hope. Fairytales have maidens with long flowing hair and handsome young princes to rescue them from the evil suitor always destined to lose. Love songs that play through the night with singers that cry out their anguish condition us to a belief that love will turn bad and hearts will be broken. With enforcing like this are we too unrealistic about dating and love?
“The burden of love the pain of rejection” When our hearts beat as one we are lifted so high, like angels in heaven we float through our union, no doubt and no fear. A break up has consequence and is often insane, even lives have been taken when jealousy and rage prove to be uncontrollable. Counsellors and professionals draw the line in the sand to enable the broken to move on again and find the person you remember before love turned sour. Baggage is the weight you carry from a fall it needs to be thrown away before you can contemplate dating and relationships. It will damage your soul with a bitter embrace and destroy any potential for a brand new romance, Accept that the past is a lesson now ingrained and move on with lightness and a smile in your day
Sally was apprehensive as she sat in the caf, twiddling her thumbs and wondering aloud. Her silent banter was constant and abrasive, filled with negative messages like. Will he be dishonest like Mike? How will I know if he likes me for who I am? Her past relationship had left her scarred and alone, her trust destroyed and her confidence on hold, not great shape to be in on a brand new blind date. By taking Mike’s less than perfect characteristics and reflecting them onto this new guy she has already in her mind cancelled the possibility of him being the one who could be a partner for life. So Sally could have worked through her feelings before this special day and allowed herself to meet this brand new guy with a clean slate, thereby giving him and her the possibility of a brand new romantic relationship and a magnificent future
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