In the article before this one, I wrote about why humor was so important, especially the timing of it. Now I’ll show you another factor that is just as important – how you leave her!
So you’ve attracted a nice young lady, and things look to be going very smooth for you. You aren’t able to continue the flirtations, but you definitely want to see her again.
So what should you do? Obviously, asking her out for another date would be the wise thing to do. But past simplifying things, it’s a matter of HOW you do it that makes it effective.
Many guys fumble here. It’s understandable in many cases, as most men aren’t in tune with what is happening during a flirtation anyhow. If you are aware, it’s rather easy to do, as you’ll know if she’s interested in you.
The main key is to pay attention to her nonverbal clues. I’ll get more into this in the final article. However, if she is interested, you should smoothly segue it into another date.
The best way is to be direct.
– “Would you like to meet for coffee sometime in the next week?” — “Perhaps we could meet again soon. Could I have your phone number?”
Being indirect about it tends to create apprehension. I’m not a big fan of saying something like “I really enjoyed talking to you and would like to do so again.” I believe in getting to the point of the matter.
If you’ve made a strong enough impression, you might be lucky enough for her to ask YOU for your number. That happening is really rare though – so definitely don’t count on it! And sometimes when this happens, she is trying to actually get rid of you!
A sneaky trick that might be worth trying is to let her know that you like a woman who isn’t constrained by societal rules. Be it a “free spirit”, or a liberated woman, acknowledging that it is acceptable to be that way might just convince her to close you. But again, don’t count on it.
So be direct, and confident. If you’ve done your work, you have very little to fear in regards to rejection!
This wraps up the final article of the series. In the next one, I’ll show you how to put together all the aspects of flirting, and how to practice them!
